Why And How To Say Sorry

Why And How To Say Sorry
Mengapa dan Bagaimana Meminta Maaf

TRANSKRIP
We spend a lot of time in relationships pointing out what’s wrong with the other person and insisting on our blamelessness.
We imagine that’s a good strategy for getting what we want and for being happy in a couple, but that’s nonsense.
Next time you feel strong enough that you can, for a moment, stop insisting you’re always right, try a different tack. Out of the blue say: “sorry I’m so anxious”
“sorry I lose my temper”,
“sorry I don’t listen enough”,
“sorry I’m too preoccupied”,
“sorry I both want you close and push you away”,
“sorry I’m not always balanced, sane or mature”.
You think that might weaken you, make you hostage to the partner’s vengeance.
It never does. Everything always gets better from that point.
Give it a try.
Sorry I’m so crazy.

TERJEMAHAN
We spend a lot of time in relationships pointing out what’s wrong with the other person and insisting on our blamelessness.
Kita menghabiskan banyak waktu dalam hubungan menunjukkan kesalahan orang lain dan bersikeras kita tidak bersalah.

We imagine that’s a good strategy for getting what we want and for being happy in a couple, but that’s nonsense.
Kita membayangkan itu adalah strategi yang bagus untuk mendapatkan apa yang kita inginkan dan untuk menjadi bahagia dalam berpasangan, tapi itu omong kosong.

Next time you feel strong enough that you can, for a moment, stop insisting you’re always right, try a different tack.
Lain kali kam merasa sangat yakin kamu bisa, untuk sejenak, berhentilah bersikeras kamu selalu benar, cobalah cara lain.

Out of the blue say: “sorry I’m so anxious”
Secara tiba-tiba katakan: “Maaf aku begitu khawatir.”

“sorry I lose my temper”,
“Maaf aku hilang kesabaran”

“sorry I don’t listen enough”,
“Maaf aku tidak cukup mendengarkan”

“sorry I’m too preoccupied”,
“Maaf aku terlalu sibuk”

“sorry I both want you close and push you away”,
“Maaf aku secara bersamaan ingin kamu dekat dan menyuruhmu pergi”

“sorry I’m not always balanced, sane or mature”.
“Maaf aku tidak selalu seimbang waras atau dewasa”

You think that might weaken you, make you hostage to the partner’s vengeance.

Kamu pikir itu akan membuatmu lemah, membuatmu sandera untuk pembalasan pasanganmu.

It never does. Everything always gets better from that point.
Tidak pernah demikian. Semuanya selalu menjadi lebih baik dari titik itu.

Give it a try.
Cobalah.

Sorry I’m so crazy.
Maaf aku begitu gila.